I lived in Boulder for five years and love to visit the city whenever I can. I remember the first time I crested the final hill from Denver and saw a view of the Flatirons. Those majestic foothills are an iconic landmark on the west side of town. Tears came to my eyes, and I knew I was home. Each time I see that expanse, I have the same visceral reaction.

Halko and I both have roots in Boulder. He lived there when he was part of a team of therapists forming the Hakomi Institute in 1980. We met in Boulder more than 30 years ago and had no inkling that more than ten of those years would be as a couple.

Life is filled with surprises. Just when we resign ourselves to living without feeling fully alive, something wakes us up again.

For many of us, the turn of the year is a significant time of reflection. You may be wondering if this is the year when you and your partner will recover the magic that brought you together.

Like the Flatirons, early sex is often a force of nature that takes our breath away. When we are speeding day the highway of everyday life, we forget to look at the scenery, just as we forget to look at our partner. In our upcoming retreat, Erotic Presence, you will slow down and learn to see freshly.

Sometimes, a new view is all we need to overcome the dulling effects of familiarity in our committed relationship. If you are ready to revitalize your erotic life, join me in Boulder, Colorado January 18th – 20th, 2019! Here are some reasons to travel to what is affectionately known as the “Berkeley of the Rockies.”

1. The Food
According to Bon Appeétit magazine and Food + Wine! Boulder is America’s Foodiest Town, and Pearl Street is one of the Top Ten Foodie Streets in America. There are dozens of award-winning restaurants that are worth exploring if you’re someone who enjoys a multi-cultural culinary experience!

2. Tea Tours
If you’re a fan of tea, or even if you’re just interested in how tea is made, the Celestial Seasonings tea factory hosts public tours every hour on the hour so you can find a tour time that works for you. The tour includes free tastings and the opportunity to view their art gallery. You can also visit the ornate Dushanbe Teahouse that was created in Tajikistan as a gift to Boulder.

3. Hike
They say no trip to Boulder is complete without embarking on a hike– long or short! Chautauqua Park is the town’s best-known hiking destination and has walks of varying lengths and difficulty. Be sure to also make a stop at the Flatiron Mountains– and lookout for the endearing prairie dogs.

4. Wine Studios
Three local wineries offer tastings in one fantastic tour at the Wine Studios in Boulder. Bookcliff Vineyards serves award-winning wines from 100% Colorado grapes, Settembre Cellars crafts old-world styled wines, and Decadent Sait is pioneering the American craft wine market.

5. Visit the University
Boulder is known to be a University town which makes stopping into the university and “hill” district a worthwhile detour. The view of University of Colorado’s Varsity Bridge resembles a scene from an impressionist painting and is a gorgeous site any time of the year.

6. Shambhala Center and Naropa University
There’s no denying that Boulder is a Buddhist hot spot. Boulder claims to have just over 1,400 active Buddhists, with 18 identified congregations. In the early 1970s, Chogyam Trungpa Rimpoche brought Tibetan Buddhism to the West and made Boulder home to his meditation center and University.

You do not have to be a Buddhist to appreciate how Mindfulness can revise a flagging sex life.

At our Erotic Presence retreat, we will mindfully hold space for you to re-access your embodied wholeness. As you learn to see, touch and share with renewed curiosity and Presence, you will discover where you have been stuck or deadened.

Make 2019 the year you prioritize your relationship.