Is Erotic Expansion on your Resolution List?

Forget those New Year’s Resolutions, Notice the Now

If your sex life as a couple has taken a nose dive over the years, you might be tempted to create New Year’s resolutions to “fix” it. In fact, about a quarter of us make resolutions around relationships at the start of the year; and sadly, few of us keep them. When it comes to a flagging

Finding Passion and Presence In the Crucible of Cancer

Receiving a cancer diagnosis is a terrifying experience for anyone. My brush with such a diagnosis occurred in September when my doctor urged me to see a urologist to rule out bladder cancer. Medical information abounds online, which is how I became an overnight expert on the two kinds of bladder cancers and the invasive procedures used to diagnose and treat them.

Why Conscious Connection is More than a Turn On

When we fall in love it’s all sunshine and roses. But down the road, we may find that we are getting sunburn and pricked by love’s thorns on a regular basis. Why the drastic turn around?

As part of a committed couple, your partner cannot help but hold a big shiny mirror in front of you whenever you interact. At the “love

A Beautiful Letter

Maci,

I really can’t express to you how grateful John and I are for your work. My heart is full and warm as I sit here, reflecting on the path we have walked as a couple over the last nine months.

When we signed up for the first Passion & Presence, it was out of desperation. I had been on depression medication for a year, I had

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10 Ways to Tend Eros in Long-Term Relationships

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” ― Anaïs Nin

Anaïs Nin knew that love, sexuality, and creativity can lose their luster through erosion or neglect.  The word “withering” suggests the need to pick fruit

Tending Eros By Attending our Couple’s Retreats

By Julia Corley, Assistant Facilitator

I’m involved with Passion & Presence retreats because I deeply believe that erotic pleasure is our birthright. Sex is natural, normal, and beautiful.  At its essence, it can be a powerful path to connection with ourselves, our lovers, and the divine.

Since I began to consciously know what sex was, it’s always seemed absurd to me that there’s so much shame and

6 Ways to be Mindful During Sex

What is Mindful Sexuality and How Can We Access it?

Mindful Sexuality is a philosophy, a practice, and a set of skills to cultivate curiosity, heart­fullness and a spirit of erotic exploration. The traditional practice involves bringing gentle awareness to our immediate experience, which is an antidote to automaticity.

By turning attention to the present, we become aware of the fullness and depth of our sensual, emotional

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Why Erotic Triggers Can Be the Best Foreplay

Recently, a participant in one of our retreats came back into the room with a big smile on her face. “Erotic triggers are the best foreplay,” she gushed, still a bit out of breath. Those of us in the room knew exactly what she meant, but to the uninitiated, this might sound a bit peculiar. How could a trigger ever lead to great sex, and

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Real Life Sex Can Be Rich-When You Befriend Your Anxieties

Sex-Related Anxieties Abound

Real Life Sex is what I have dubbed sex as it happens in the real world versus what happens on-screen. In real life, there are no chiffon dresses, violins, panning away with the camera, “perfect” bodies, or other notions about what “perfect” sex might look like. Nor is it always “smokin’ hot,” spontaneous or even satisfying.

Real Life Sex is also filled with real

Scary, Scary Good, or Just Plain Good?

Thoughts, Fears and Feedback About Our Couples Retreats

When I created Passion & Presence@ Couples Retreats, Halko and I assumed droves of growth-oriented pleasure-seekers would jump at the chance to use eroticism as their pathway to healing and transformation.  It seemed obvious that all those conjugal “roommates” out there (an estimated 20% of couples) would trip over themselves to establish a more vital erotic connection.

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