One of the most liberating truths about sex is this: it doesn’t need to be perfect. In fact, real sex has no scoreboard. It’s not about flawless technique, acrobatic stamina, or hitting every cue. It’s about presence, connection, and letting go. But many of us don’t experience it that way. Instead, we get caught in what I call the Performance Trance — a cultural mindset that reduces sex

Whether biological or psychological, sexual familiarity lowers desire—and humans, like animals, thrive on novelty. Novelty gives us that exhilarating high. But does this mean we need something new, or do we need to reveal more of ourselves? Some people explore non-monogamy, but for many, deep connection comes from fully expressing ourselves within an existing relationship. A number of years ago, Esther Perel said something that

In our daily lives, it’s common to feel that we know ourselves, our partners, and our intimate experiences well. We operate under a sense of certainty, building beliefs around what’s possible or impossible in our relationships. Over time, we can become entrenched in the idea that things are fixed. But what if we consciously let go of these preconceptions? What if we shift from a

Within the realm of consciousness lies a profound aspect of relationships, one that often goes unexplored—the issue of sexual boredom. It’s a common phenomenon, creeping into the lives of most couples as time passes. But why does it happen? Repetitive routines, low expectations, and mechanical interactions all contribute to losing the spark of creativity and engagement. We become prisoners of habit, following the same script

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“Sitting in circles with couples of different backgrounds, orientations, in ages has shown me that passionate sex is rare in long-term relationships. Many couples report that the real-life sex they are having is more often triggering or a routine. They feel deadended, inadequate, and lonely. I hear the same things in my sex therapy practice. Jerome and Keisha miss the magic they once made in the